Fear is crippling, while passion motivates. Which will you choose?
Whether or not we believe in destiny, we are creating our tomorrows with decisions that we make today. Every person makes thousands of decisions every day. Some are as simple as what to make for breakfast, while other decisions have a stronger impact. i.e. Should I move my family to an exotic location? Most of the daily decisions we make are not even thought about. We look around at our environment and circumstances and we deduct that (for example) we have eggs and bread so it’s going to be scrambled eggs and toast for breakfast. Often times, we make choices based on fear.
Obviously a larger decision like moving to paradise takes a bit more contemplation. What are your thoughts when I even bring up a scenario like this? Do you immediately rule this out as a possibility? I know, there are a million reasons why you can’t afford to move or live on a tropical island. There’s this and there’s that and that other reason. It’s much easier to say “this is not an option in my life”. But, it is in fact available to you. What’s crazy is that it’s not the reasons that stop you from making huge life-transforming choices like this. You are creating the reasons that stop you from making huge life-transforming choices in your life.
“Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. It must be a goal that is so appealing, so much in line with your spiritual core, that you can’t get it out of your mind. If you do not get chills when you set a goal, you’re not setting big enough goals.”
When my husband and I were just dating, he asked me to go to Egypt to meet his parents. I always had a deep desire to go to Egypt and see the roots of all language and artistic expression. Having grown up in a lower class family in rural midwest, I never saw how I would get there. Nor, did I even think it was a possibility. I thought visiting the Pyramids was for another life, or for others, but not for me.
As exciting as this adventure was, a lot of fearful thoughts came up. I was going to fly to a foreign country where I didn’t speak the language. I didn’t understand the culture or expectations of women versus men. Aside from beautiful documentaries showcasing tourist areas, the American media painted a pretty grim picture of this middle eastern country. The weeks leading up to my journey left me a nervous wreck. Friends and family were warning me about going into the middle of a war zone, where protests and gun fights were a daily occurrence. When I told people I was going, they would look at me with worried looks on their faces and advised me to stay safe.
My stomach was in knots. I didn’t sleep very well. I couldn’t concentrate. Yet, I was also filled with romantic wonderment. I imagined seeing hieroglyphics, the Pyramids and the Sphinx. I longed for this adventure. Regardless of my knotted stomach and sweaty palms, I knew I had to go on this journey.
I flew to Egypt and landed in a daze. An Egyptian man met me at the terminal and offered to help me with my visa and paperwork. He then took me to my then-boyfriend, now-husband. It was 3 in the morning or something ridiculous. We got in a car and swept across Cairo in a blur to our hotel. Aside from Ayman, I had no idea who I was with, where we were going or what I was looking at outside of the car window, but I knew I felt safe and that this felt so right. I was in Egypt!
We stayed at a hotel that overlooked the Nile River. We could see the Pyramids from the balcony. It was so romantic and surreal. During this trip, I touched hieroglyphics with my own hands. I stood next to the Sphinx. We went to Alexandria and I stood where the library and lighthouse used to be. I had distantly dreamt of these things, but never really gave it the authority to exist. It just seemed so out of reach! The highlight of that trip was the day Ayman took me first to the Egyptian museum in Tahrir Square and then down to the Nile River to propose marriage to me.
What I would have missed had I given in to fear! What amazing sights I would not see had I made excuses for why I could not go to a foreign land that I didn’t understand. I would have missed out on a marriage to the man of my dreams had I not trusted that life was for me and not against me. I said “yes!” to opportunity and adventure and the Universe responded back with “yippee!”