“Don’t join an easy crowd. You won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform and achieve are high.” ~ Jim Rohn
Do you ever notice how the people you spend time with can dramatically affect your mood? When someone around you is grumpy and complaining about everything in their life, you start to sympathize and soon you find yourself also in a bad mood and complaining right along with them. Then there are those funny, comedic people in your life that no matter what mood you’re in, when you spend time with them, you laugh until you’re crying. We all know a person that no matter what is going on in your life, you know you can call them and they will lift you up and make you feel better.
Once I became conscious and aware of how easily another person could change my mood, I started to pay attention to who I shared my energy with. Unfortunately, this awareness taught me that some of my closest companions were not good for me. The first dramatic example of this insight includes my best friend in high school. She was just that – my best friend! We liked the same music; adored the same fashion; and had the same rebellious nature. Unfortunately, she wasn’t as motivated as I was and I saw that she was holding me back. Between our freshman and sophomore years of high school, we partied hard. Night or daytime, weekdays or weekends – it didn’t matter. When fall came around, it was obvious that she was not going to slow down to accomodate the school year. Don’t get me wrong, I continued to party and rebel – but to a lesser degree. I had an instinctual feeling that a huge wedge was about to be driven in between our relationship. I knew that I had to remove myself from that world. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done – breaking up with my best friend – but it had to be done.
Of course, I didn’t know then what I know now, and I only replaced her with others who were vibrating at the same destructive level. I continued for many years to place myself in situations with people who did not elevate me to my fullest potential. Over time, I learned to attract higher level thinkers and doers. Now I am completely surrounded by positive, motivated people who are destined to do great things. As soon as I meet someone, I know if they are going to lift me or bring me down. If they are the downer type, I don’t make an effort to build a relationship. It sounds harsh, but by placing myself in a circle of high vibration, I now have an army of soldiers fighting for me to be great. My current friends don’t let me complain for very long before lifting me up to a level of love. Their expectations for me persuade me to accomplish my goals. They expect a lot from me and because of this, I have grown tremendously.