Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

Having a healthy, intimate relationship with somebody can easily become a main focus in our lives. Everybody wants to feel loved and accepted. It’s only natural to want to bond with somebody at a really deep emotional level. Unfortunately, it’s easy to confuse love for someone else with the love we want to receive. Think about it, we get involved with someone and we want them to sweep us off our feet, spoil us and take care of all of our needs. Even if we are the most independent person in the world, the desire to be taken care of  and loved by another exists.

While we ultimately want a relationship to benefit ourselves, we must remember that there are two people involved. We can’t always be the one that has every need met, just like we can’t be the only one that makes sacrifices. Relationships take work, from both people, in order to be successful. One of the hardest lessons to learn is knowing that sometimes our partner’s needs don’t mesh with our own. And, quite frankly, sometimes our partner’s needs can make us uncomfortable. If the love you have for your friend, or partner, is strong enough, you’ll be able to see past the uneasiness and know without a doubt that your love for each other trumps the needs you have for each other. A strong love will help you through any and every situation. Fulfilling a momentary need for another will only matter in that specific time and place. The love lasts longer and is always stronger.

Now, I want to take this advice to the next level. I want to encourage you to apply this wisdom to not only your relationships, but your career path, too. We are directed by society to think that we need a salary and a 401k. We need a fancy job title and a corner office with a window. We need a conventional career path even if it means we’re tired and unfulfilled at the end of the day. We are brainwashed into thinking that we need to treat our passions as a hobby and not a career. Will you please question this authority? Can you let your love take over? Let your passions direct your choices. Let your desires to be who you really are exceed your need for the fancy job title. Imagine how happy you will be once you have made a commitment to yourself to follow your dreams.

My desire to be myself is greater than my need to fit in.

If the love you have for your aspirations is strong enough, you will make your dreams come true. Focus your energy on that love. Open your mind enough to see that what you thought was a need, is actually something you can get by without. When you are living your dream life, you define your own needs, rather than allowing society to dictate your needs. You’ll realize that you need to be yourself. You need to be true to who you are. You need to be happy. You’ll love being yourself. You will love being true to who you are and you will love being happy. I’m guessing that you can’t say the same about society’s structured needs. Do you love your salary? Do you love your fancy job title? Do you love your conventional career path? I’m not talking about an appreciation for these things, I’m asking if the passion that flows from the center of your heart reflects things like money, titles and complacency. Listen to your heart. It really does know best. Love is all that you need. It’s easy!